true love

Lust is a desire, a feeling but is love also? Or is love a decision and a commitment? Too many people love with their eyes and not their heart, to fulfill their own wantonness. This is not love at all, but a selfish indulgence. If your love is based on feelings it is not dependable as feelings are not a reliable foundation for anything.

Love seems to be cheap today as fewer and fewer couples commit to marriage or even stay together. Love isn’t something that comes and goes, or dependent on how you feel this day or that. Falling out of love is a common phrase that really means, you are no longer meeting my needs, so I am off to look for my next thrill.

Love is about meeting someone else’s needs, not your own, regardless of how you feel. You can be counted on through tough circumstances, even in times of neglect or hostility. Love is a decision to put another person before yourself without expecting repayment.

I have some experience in strain, tension and mediocrity.  I have been married to the same woman for 23 years. We have been through the stresses of losing two of our children, financial uncertainty, illness and injury. If our love was based on a feeling or euphoria that comes and goes, we would be a statistic. True love is a decision to commit all your resources for the benefit of another, even to the detriment of yourself.

The bible puts it this way.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7; “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

Think of this the next time someone says to you;

“if you really love me then you will ???”

That is a manipulative statement from someone who seeks selfish ends and has no regard for your well being what-so-ever. Love doesn’t manipulate another to get its own way.

God showed us what true love really is;

Romans 5:8, 10; “But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners… For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son.”

God decided to act for our benefit while we were still his enemy, not knowing if we would respond or not. [Love never gives up, never loses faith, always hopeful] God is always hopeful we will respond to him, even through our difficulty. In my posts “God Doesn’t Want Me” and “Why God Isn’t Disappointed in You“, you can read more about his amazing love for you.

Jesus chose to give his life so we could live not only better lives here on earth, but live into eternity.

John 10:18; “No one can take my life from me. I sacrifice it voluntarily.” – Jesus

John 15:13;There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

Has God given up on anyone? Love never gives up and endures through every circumstance the bible says.

2 Timothy 2:13; “If we are unfaithful, he remains faithful… “

Revelation 3:20; “Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in… “ – Jesus

If God has what we call love today, we would all be doomed. The bible has relevance because love is the same today as it was two thousand years ago. Humanities needs are the same today as they were thousands of years ago.

What does that mean for us today, here and now? We lay aside our own wants and desires when they conflict with another’s. This may go against everything that society is saying today but look what is happening to it. What has the “ME” generation gained?

The second video below “Jesus Christ; Amazing Love” is graphic in its depiction of God love for you. What you do with Jesus sacrifice will define your life here and now, and your life to come. We are all eternal beings, “Death isn’t the End of Life“.


“What Love Really Means” JJ Heller


Candi Pearson “You Are My King” and clips from the movie “The Passion Of The Christ”

Robert J.